i'd rather be at peace within than be understood in this world.
[ a musing on letting go of external validation and holding your peace ]
there is a soul-level desire many carry—the desire to be understood. to be seen clearly. to be known fully. and while there is nothing inherently wrong with that longing, the truth is: it comes at a cost. you place yourself in a vulnerable position when you bring your soul-level questions to a world that doesn’t have the capacity to answer them. you become a lamb in the midst of wolves. being at peace with who you are means you’ve taken the journey of rediscovery. you’ve come home to your authenticity. you’ve chosen to know yourself so deeply that the world’s approval becomes irrelevant. you no longer look outward to be told who you are—you simply live in truth and allow it to reveal itself as you walk. you bring the world your answers, instead of your soul-level questions.
protecting your peace is not selfish, it’s sacred stewardship. it means protecting your energy like it’s holy. it means tending to your clarity like it’s fire. it means choosing, over and over, to build a life that aligns with who you are—not with what others think you should be. you don't need to explain why you move the way you do. you don’t need to justify your decisions to anyone—not even the ones who love you. the people closest to us often want the best for us, yes—but they may not always know what’s best. they don’t hold the blueprint. you do. and the more you prioritize being understood, the more likely you are to hand over your power in exchange for approval.
for me, this truth first became clear with the family i was born into. though they always mean well, in my youth, my parents would suggest which path to take, which dreams to hold, what boundaries i should or shouldn’t draw. and for a while, i believed that if i could just explain it well enough, they would get it. that if i offered a good enough reason, they would align with me. but here’s what i’ve learned: the impulse to overexplain almost always comes from unworthiness. and the need to be understood is often a quiet plea to feel safe. but safety, true safety, comes from inner knowing. not from someone else’s comprehension.
selling your soul doesn’t always look dramatic. sometimes, it’s as simple as explaining yourself to someone who has no desire—or capacity—to understand.
if you can’t make decisions without the need to justify them, you’re inviting someone else’s doubts to sit at the table with your dreams and visions. and not everyone has the faith to believe the way you do. not everyone can hold a vision they weren’t given. this doesn’t make them bad. it just makes you different and responsible for guarding your heart, your vision, your life.
so here’s my suggestion: hold your peace. don’t cast your gems to swine.
lately, i’ve received this insight: the same way my family challenged me will mirror how the world will challenge me. the doubt. the comparison. the inconsistent support—offered only when clarity is visible, familiar, safe, or secure. but your calling won’t always look clear to others. your soul’s path won’t always make sense, and it’s not supposed to.
the most powerful person in the room is not the loudest or the most validated. it’s the one who is at peace with God, with themselves, and aligned with their own authenticity. the wealthiest person is the one who can follow their inner wisdom and intuition without needing applause—who can live unbothered, unshaken, unbent in this world.
be mindful of where the affections of your heart are because at any given time, what can be shaken, will be shaken.
a soul writing reflection for your journal:
where am i still seeking to be understood instead of being at peace?
what decisions do i feel the need to explain?
what would it look like to trust myself enough to stop?
affirm this if you feel led:
i release the need to be understood.
i choose peace.
i trust my knowing.
i honor the blueprint placed within me.
i’d love to hear what this brings up for you. feel free to comment, share your own musings, or just say hi. i’m always grateful for the quiet company.
until next time. ♡
